Is it ok to keep you ex around as a friend?

      My thoughts on this would be people are 50/50 when it comes to maintaining a friendship with their ex. My personal opinion is sure it is it’s no reason two people can’t remain civil after a break up. The first thing you have to ask yourselves how would you new lover view the friendship if it causes problems for you new relationship do not try to reason with your new lover. It would make the situation awkward, as he or she may think you still hold feelings for the person; therefore, it’s not worth the hassle. Still I suggest you be at the very least cordial to one another. The past is the past and there seldom anything you or you ex can do to reverse it. Especially if the relationship ended on a bad note, but to show are a better person remain friendly and if the situation allows it, then go on and befriend your ex.

First Dates

      A lot of people often ponder at the thought of where to go for a first date? I’ve made a list of what’s hot and what’s not.

Hot

Ice-skating

In or outdoor it’s always a romantic idea and if you don’t know how to ice skate it’s all the better for you two to get close while holding each other up.

Lounges

This particularly works best during the week when both of have done nothing but work, and more work. It’ll be nice to have a social hour together and release tension.  You’ll tend to unwind a lot easier so much that the typical icebreakers won’t be needed.

Museum

This will be a chance to see if either you or your date has an interest in art and historical artifacts as well. Hence common ground and it gives you a better chance to find out what he or she is into, if you let them lead through your adventure. Pay close attention on what peeks your date’s interest then move in on that topic for conversation.

Not

Movies

C’mon really are we still in high school here? Most women will appreciate originality and guys avoiding the fail-safe. For one, it’s a cheap date.  For two, the environment doesn’t allow talking; therefore, how would you ever get to know your date.

Your Place

Now days you never want to invite a stranger over your place for dinner or anything for that matter. It’s just unsafe I say wait to a few dates see if the person works out and decide from there.

Concerts or live music

You can take your date to see a band or a on concert if you know their taste in music. If it’s a first date be careful, the last thing you want to do is take a person to a live music event that doesn’t fit their Genre of music.

Outdoor loving

      

      With another season of spring finally here there are many outdoor activities you can now do with your partner. Take for instance a camping trip planning a camping trip with your lover can be romantic as a unique experience. A word of advice is to try detaching yourself from all medias during the trip. Yes you can bring your phone but limit the amount of times you will check it. 

      For example 3 times a day is sufficient. Just make sure you and your lover lets everyone know the 3times of the day that you will be able to take calls. Limit each phone break to 7 minutes. This will give you love birds more of a chance to explore all of what nature has to offer together as one.

      You can go hiking and have walk and talk sessions with each other go site seeing or even picnic a remote yet romantic location (near a water fall or open meadow. Or view the stars, which are more apparent than in urban skies, filled with buildings and pollution that’s most of us are use to.

What a man wants

   
     I've been approached, by several ladies I know asking the simple question of what is it that men seek from women? Me being the Love Guru I feel much obliged to become the liaison for us men (well most of us) and state what those qualities/characteristics are.




    First off common ground is very important how can one find love if you has nothing that he relates to in the first place. I guarantee you ladies that tapping into a man's lifestyle is equivalent to tapping into a woman's emotions. You're all good once you pass that first crossroad. When tapped properly a woman can access ideal ice breakers, possible date locations, or just the thinking process of a man.




     We also like to wear the pants I hate to be so blunt, but honesty is key for this. While it's true most men appreciate their significant other to be independent and a strong woman he still wants to steer the boat. Meaning he likes to move at his own pace without feeling pressured it's ok to hint, but avoid complete hostile take overs in a relationship.


     Understand all men has needs such as sex. Sounds shallow ladies but hey it is what it is, if you don't provide it someone else's slot will be filled and I'm not talking about time. Be careful of this need though and make sure if you are having sexual relations outside of a loving relationship or marriage that you all be on common ground before hand or things could go bad. Also stay away from using sex as a reward or a lure, I knew a woman who tried to corner a man into a relationship with sex. She quickly learned three things, one that he he told her what she wanted to hear to get what he wanted, two how much he sucks at being a father to their new kid, and three what it's like to be a single parent.


  They're plenty more needs that men have, what I revealed was just a foundation

Food leading to the heart

     Now, I don't know about you all, but a significant other that can cook is very important to have. In fact, I 'll take it a step farther and say if a woman can't cook she doesn't stand a chance in my life. I love women but I love food a whole lot more. Is having them both a woman and good food too much to ask for?


     From the introduction it might appear to you that I can't cook myself or I only need a woman to cook. I assure you both assumptions are incorrect, I'm actually a very talented cook in my own right. And I'd never solely date a woman based on her culinary skills. Being a person that's in-tune with your stomach is perfectly natural so isn't it fair to have someone able to tend to that need? For example I love spicy food, it's coincidental that my lover who is partial Korean and partial German cooks spicy food. It's safe to say spicy food is her life (or a part of it anyway).




     Her kimchi it may not be traditional to the Korean standards but believe me when I tell you it is to die for! Her stir fry is excellent, her pretzel chicken is pretty delicious, and her potato and sausage omelet is scrumptious. Take it from a man who rarely is into breakfast. I could go on and on, but back to the point I'm trying to make; which is food and love comes hand to hand.




     Think about it food is often involved in sexual foreplay (whip cream and fruit), given for lover's holidays (sweets), ThanksGiving involves eating with your love-ones. I'll end this with a quote of my own, "A man on a full stomach is easy to love than a man on an empty one."
-Love Guru-

Sweetest Day the third saturday of October

Sweetest Day 


   Most might argue that Sweetest day is just a another man made holiday that has no importance what so ever. Others don't even know it exist, and then there is the few who knows it exist yet denies it's level of importance. Sweetest day is a hallmark holiday typically celebrated on the 3rd week in October and exclusively in the Great lakes region (where it was developed) and parts of the Northeast region as well in the U.S. On October 8th 1921, in Cleveland Ohio birthed this great day for people to remember and think of their friends, family members and love ones. As well as the sick, aged and Orphanage. 


   Over time Sweetest Day became manipulated to mirror Valentine's Day. That caused the holiday to convert from being less friendly to more romantic orientated. While your elders may have used this holiday to show gratitude to good friends as well as the forgotten, you (nine times out of 10) use it as a reason to initiate steamy romance. From there the holiday evolved once more to benefit men yay for us!


   It's a chance for the ladies to show appreciation to the men for once instead of the traditional that is typically vice versa all year round. Ladies please take heed Sweetest day is a day for the males and males only to be pampered. Wether it's a night on the town, a nice steak and potato dinner or a brand new set of tools it doesn't matter as long as the thought is there we'll be satisfied. If you want to win a certain man over, believe me when I say it come to his rescue during Sweetest Day. He'll first off be shocked that you even acknowledged this holiday and second that you offered to do for him for a chance. (Pissp come closer for this) If you take care of him on his day, come Valentines Day he'll take that extra step to take care of you.


Here is some tips on some do's along with some don'ts 


do's                                                     don'ts
1. Take him out for a movie                    1. Don't think sex is enough to satisfy this holiday 
2. Dinner                                                    2. Avoid double dating (us men hate it).
3. Live sporting event                              3. Avoid flowers
4. Edible bouquet  (fruits & cookies)    4. No complaining (bare a few manly events for a day)   
5. Bowling or billards                              5. Avoid him on this day or you'll regret it!
6. Gifts (tools, clothes, movies, or cds)      
7. Gift cards (Jiffy Lube, Buffalo Wild Wings, Ralph Lauren)
8. A weekend get away (nothing too big)
9. A massage 
10. A nice home cooked meal of his choice

Cuddle Season

    
   Now that the summer is over (along with your urges of being single), the cold and harsh weather from winter awaits. Instead of flaunting those body parts off in bikinis and shorts while searching for possible dates; you'll soon want to conserve them in winter coats and scarfs with a sudden urge to "settle down." 


   That's right, it's time to go from the all you can eat buffets to more of the single wine and dine scene if you know what I mean. For those who don't, allow me to elaborate with Christmas coming up, New-years behind it and St. Valentines day around the corner wouldn't it be nice to have a steady partner to celebrate them with?


    Imagine having someone to exchange gifts with or someone to grab on to when you fall on the ice from ice skating or even that special person to kiss under the mistletoe. How about someone to count down the old year (on New Years Eve) and bring in the new year with? Or even someone to have a romantic night with on Valentines day. 


   Where I'm getting at here is it may be time to settle down and seal the deal with that certain someone you've either had your eye on or have been casually dating. Tis the season to be jolly and love or be loved. Say hello to a passionate fall and winter and goodbye to lustful spring and summer. And remember Seal the deal!!!