I've been approached, by several ladies I know asking the simple question of what is it that men seek from women? Me being the Love Guru I feel much obliged to become the liaison for us men (well most of us) and state what those qualities/characteristics are.
First off common ground is very important how can one find love if you has nothing that he relates to in the first place. I guarantee you ladies that tapping into a man's lifestyle is equivalent to tapping into a woman's emotions. You're all good once you pass that first crossroad. When tapped properly a woman can access ideal ice breakers, possible date locations, or just the thinking process of a man.
We also like to wear the pants I hate to be so blunt, but honesty is key for this. While it's true most men appreciate their significant other to be independent and a strong woman he still wants to steer the boat. Meaning he likes to move at his own pace without feeling pressured it's ok to hint, but avoid complete hostile take overs in a relationship.
Understand all men has needs such as sex. Sounds shallow ladies but hey it is what it is, if you don't provide it someone else's slot will be filled and I'm not talking about time. Be careful of this need though and make sure if you are having sexual relations outside of a loving relationship or marriage that you all be on common ground before hand or things could go bad. Also stay away from using sex as a reward or a lure, I knew a woman who tried to corner a man into a relationship with sex. She quickly learned three things, one that he he told her what she wanted to hear to get what he wanted, two how much he sucks at being a father to their new kid, and three what it's like to be a single parent.
They're plenty more needs that men have, what I revealed was just a foundation
Now, I don't know about you all, but a significant other that can cook is very important to have. In fact, I 'll take it a step farther and say if a woman can't cook she doesn't stand a chance in my life. I love women but I love food a whole lot more. Is having them both a woman and good food too much to ask for?
From the introduction it might appear to you that I can't cook myself or I only need a woman to cook. I assure you both assumptions are incorrect, I'm actually a very talented cook in my own right. And I'd never solely date a woman based on her culinary skills. Being a person that's in-tune with your stomach is perfectly natural so isn't it fair to have someone able to tend to that need? For example I love spicy food, it's coincidental that my lover who is partial Korean and partial German cooks spicy food. It's safe to say spicy food is her life (or a part of it anyway).
Her kimchi it may not be traditional to the Korean standards but believe me when I tell you it is to die for! Her stir fry is excellent, her pretzel chicken is pretty delicious, and her potato and sausage omelet is scrumptious. Take it from a man who rarely is into breakfast. I could go on and on, but back to the point I'm trying to make; which is food and love comes hand to hand.
Think about it food is often involved in sexual foreplay (whip cream and fruit), given for lover's holidays (sweets), ThanksGiving involves eating with your love-ones. I'll end this with a quote of my own, "A man on a full stomach is easy to love than a man on an empty one."
-Love Guru-
Sweetest Day
Most might argue that Sweetest day is just a another man made holiday that has no importance what so ever. Others don't even know it exist, and then there is the few who knows it exist yet denies it's level of importance. Sweetest day is a hallmark holiday typically celebrated on the 3rd week in October and exclusively in the Great lakes region (where it was developed) and parts of the Northeast region as well in the U.S. On October 8th 1921, in Cleveland Ohio birthed this great day for people to remember and think of their friends, family members and love ones. As well as the sick, aged and Orphanage.
Over time Sweetest Day became manipulated to mirror Valentine's Day. That caused the holiday to convert from being less friendly to more romantic orientated. While your elders may have used this holiday to show gratitude to good friends as well as the forgotten, you (nine times out of 10) use it as a reason to initiate steamy romance. From there the holiday evolved once more to benefit men yay for us!
It's a chance for the ladies to show appreciation to the men for once instead of the traditional that is typically vice versa all year round. Ladies please take heed Sweetest day is a day for the males and males only to be pampered. Wether it's a night on the town, a nice steak and potato dinner or a brand new set of tools it doesn't matter as long as the thought is there we'll be satisfied. If you want to win a certain man over, believe me when I say it come to his rescue during Sweetest Day. He'll first off be shocked that you even acknowledged this holiday and second that you offered to do for him for a chance. (Pissp come closer for this) If you take care of him on his day, come Valentines Day he'll take that extra step to take care of you.
Here is some tips on some do's along with some don'ts
do's don'ts
1. Take him out for a movie 1. Don't think sex is enough to satisfy this holiday
2. Dinner 2. Avoid double dating (us men hate it).
3. Live sporting event 3. Avoid flowers
4. Edible bouquet (fruits & cookies) 4. No complaining (bare a few manly events for a day)
5. Bowling or billards 5. Avoid him on this day or you'll regret it!
6. Gifts (tools, clothes, movies, or cds)
7. Gift cards (Jiffy Lube, Buffalo Wild Wings, Ralph Lauren)
8. A weekend get away (nothing too big)
9. A massage
10. A nice home cooked meal of his choice
